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question: clear me and my beautiful and beloved of the hatred on this farm. shield us from any future hatred. i pray for this in all directions and dimensions of time and space and energy. forever and ever. in Jesus Name amen.

Dear Lord,
We pray these angel cards
contain answers from You, Lord Yeshua,
to help this beloved friend.
Thank you for answering all
our prayers in your perfect way,
with your perfect timing.

Card# 144


I am delivered from the power of darkness and translated into God’s kingdom (Colossians 1:13).



Card# 218
Women in the Bible



Ruth and Naomi, loyal women

Ruth is a short version of ‘retut’, ‘lovely friendRuth and mother-in-law Naomi by Sandy Freckleton Gagon. Gagon says, “My desire is to serve the Lord through my paintings.” Courtesy of Sandy Freckleton Gagon.’.
Naomi means ‘pleasant’, but the name she called herself later was Mara, meaning ‘bitter’.
Boaz means ‘powerful’ or ‘strong’.
Mahlon and Chilion mean ‘sickness’ and ‘used up’.
Orpah means ‘back of the neck’; she turned her back on Naomi.
Elimelech means ‘my God is king’.

Main themes of the story

  • Friendship: Ruth was poor and a foreigner, but she listened to the advice of an older, wiser woman. In turn, Naomi was rewarded by Ruth’s unfaltering loyalty. The message? Courage and ingenuity triumph over misfortune.
  • ruth_orange_238Family:  The story of Ruth celebrates the family and the way it continues through many generations. Ruth, a childless widow at the beginning of the story, became the great-grandmother of Israel’s great king, David.
  • God’s plan: The story of Naomi’s family and the way it endured is a universal theme. Even Ruth, a foreigner from the despised Moabites, could move God’s plan towards fulfillment.

Ruth has special significance for Christians:
Matthew’s genealogy of Jesus (Matthew 1:2-17) lists four women. Ruth is one of them.

The story has four episodes

1 Naomi and Ruth go to Bethlehem (see the Bible text at Ruth 1  – the anguish of losing someone you love
Naomi and Ruth suffered terrible misfortune: the men in their family, including both their husbands, died. Marooned in Moab, the older woman Naomi decided to return to her home in Bethlehem. Ruth, though a Moabite herself, decided to go with her. Gleaning in the fields at harvest timeShe pledged her loyalty to Naomi and they set out on the long journey, arriving in time for the barley harvest.

2 Ruth meets Boaz – Ruth 2 – the love story
Soon after, Ruth met Boaz, a rich land-owner and relative of Naomi. It seems to have been love at first sight for him, and he ordered that Ruth be well treated when she worked in his fields. The older woman Naomi saw immediately what had happened, and encouraged Ruth to continue working in Boaz’s fields.

3 Ruth proposes marriage to Boaz – Ruth 3 – ribald peasant humour
Shrewdly, Naomi advised the young woman how to catch her man. Ruth approached Boaz during the night, at the threshing floor, and the text obliquely suggests that there may have been some sexual hanky-panky. The next morning, Ruth suggested that they marry, reminding Boaz of his obligation to her as her nearest male kin. Boaz promised to do all he could.

4 Ruth and Boaz marry – Ruth 4 – the happy ending
Naomi’s plan succeeded. Boaz proved as good as his word, and he and Ruth were married. She had a son called Obed, and Naomi cared for the child, who would grow up to be the grandfather of King David.

BIBLE WOMEN: RUTH: Migrants Arriving in Sydney - 1966, David Moore

Naomi and Ruth go to Bethlehem

Book of Ruth, Chapter 1

Naomi was an Israelite woman who, during a famine, had gone with her family to live in the country of Moab. When her husband and two sons died, she decided to return to her home town, Bethlehem. She had two daughters-in-law, Ruth and Orpah. All three women were widows.

Ruth was from Moab, east of the Jordan; Naomi was from Bethlehem, south of JerusalemIt would be interesting to know why all three died; it’s unusual for all the men in a family to die at more or less the same time. But it’s not really important to the story, so the Bible leaves it out. What is important is that their death leaves Naomi, Ruth and Orpah at the mercy of a predatory society. Unlike women in modern society, they could not seek a widow’s pension. They had to find a refuge, or starve. With a husband, Ruth’s life was more or less in balance; with the death of the three men, this balance was upset.

To complicate things, Ruth and Orpah were Moabite women, not Israelites. The Moabite people were traditional enemies of the Israelites. There was frequent warfare between the two groups. According to the Israelite belief, Moabites came from the act of incest between Lot and his older daughter (Genesis 19:30-38), and so the whole nation was tainted and inferior. The 1960’s movie RUTH shows this well, though it can’t resist throwing in some Hollywood touches to the story.

Naomi assumed that Ruth and Orpah would not want to return to Bethlehem with her, even though the women respected and loved each other.

One of them, Orpah, decided to return to her people and the Moabite way of life, but Ruth could not be persuaded. She had shared loneliness, anxiety and grief with Naomi, and now that the older woman was completely alone, Ruth would stand by her and return to Bethlehem.

This part of the story contains Ruth’s famous speech of loyalty to her mother-in-lawRead Ruth 1:16-17

Painting of an older and a younger woman‘But Ruth said,
“Do not press me to leave you
or to turn back from following you!
Where you go, I will go;
Where you lodge, I will lodge;
Your people shall be my people and your God my God.
Where you die, I will die
There I will be buried.
May the Lord do thus and so to me
And more as well
If even death parts me from you!”’

So the two women returned to Bethlehem in time for the autumn harvest of barley.

Read Ruth 1:1-22

Ruth meets Boaz

Read Ruth Chapter 2

Now although Naomi was destitute, she has good family connections. Furthermore, both she and Ruth were women of initiative. They did not believe in sitting down and letting events simply happen. Women took an active part in all stages of food production – see Bible Archaeology: Work, and Ruth decided she would help to glean the barley in the fields, to feed herself and Naomi and to get a store of grain for winter.

Ruth meets Boaz, drawing by Edward Burne-JonesGleaning was a common practice in ancient Israel. It was a form of charity for the disadvantaged in society (see Leviticus 23:22 and Deuteronomy 24:19). Recognized groups of the poor, such as widows, orphans and foreigners, could walk behind the harvesters, picking up what was left. This is what Ruth did.

‘Now Naomi had a kinsman on her husband’s side, a prominent rich man, of the family of Elimelech, whose name was Boaz. And Ruth the Moabite said to Naomi “Let me go to the field and glean among the ears of grain, behind someone in whose sight I may find favor”. She said to her “Go, my daughter”. So she went. She came and gleaned in the field behind the reapers. As it happened, she came to the part of the field belonging to Boaz, who was of the family of Elimelech. Just then Boaz came from Bethlehem.’
Read Ruth 2:1-7

Ruth 2:3 says that ‘as it happened’ Ruth went to the field of Naomi’s rich relative, Boaz. This phrase is often used in the Bible to suggest that God is setting the scene for something significant. It also implied, with a touch of Jewish humour, that Naomi and the people of Bethlehem saw a good match for Ruth and edged her into meeting Boaz.

Ruth in the fields, Merle Hugues, 1876Naomi knew that Ruth was beautiful and respected, and she knew that a rich husband for Ruth would solve all their problems. Boaz was the ideal choice. He was available, childless, well respected and rich. He was also a relative of Naomi’s through her husband’s family, so he had a legal obligation to help Naomi. Boaz was second in line to the position of go’el in Naomi’s, and therefore Ruth’s, family.

In English, the word go’el is often translated as ‘nearest kin’, but in ancient Judah it meant much more than that. A go’el was a close male relative with the duty of looking after a family when the male head of the family was absent. In earlier times, the go’el of the family was expected to marry the widow of an Israelite man if she wished it (Deuteronomy 25). Ruth, who may not have understood the niceties of Israelite law, called Boaz go’el.
Read Ruth 2:8-23


Love was in the air…

By great good luck, Boaz seems to have been smitten from the outset. He went to great lengths to get extra grain for Ruth, to protect her from young men who might harass her, and to see that she was properly fed.

‘At mealtime Boaz said to her “Come here, and eEars of ripe barleyat some of this bread, and dip your morsel in the sour wine”.
So she sat beside the reapers, and he heaped up for her some parched grain. She ate until she was satisfied, and she had some left over.’

Of course, the point of the story is that it was not just love or luck, but God who nudged them into their destiny.


Ruth proposes marriage to Boaz

Book of Ruth Chapter 3

Fayum portrait of an older woman, EgyptThis part of the story took place at the threshing floor, at a golden time of the year when the harvest had been brought in and the weather was still warm. Love was in the air, with the fertility of Nature reflected in the lives of the characters.

Naomi was a shrewd older woman who had seen a lot of life, and she now devised a plan to prod Boaz into proposing to Ruth. She knew men, and she gave Ruth specific instructions on everything she must do.

Fortunately, Ruth had the good sense to heed the older woman.
She perfumed herself, dressed in her most becoming clothes – (see Clothing and Housing in the Bible for the type of clothes she might have worn) and waited until Boaz had eaten a good meal – both women knew a man with a full stomach was easier to handle. When Boaz finally lay down to sleep, Ruth approached him where he lay on the threshing floor – someone always slept there at night until the grain was removed, to guard against thieves.

Read Ruth 3:1-18

‘When Boaz had eaten and drunk, and he was in a contented mood, he went to lie down at the end of the heap of grain. Then she came stealthily and uncovered his feet, and lay down.’

This action would seem strange unless you knew that in ancient times ‘foot’ was a euphemism for the male genital organ, as ‘sandal’ was for the female organ.

BIBLE WOMEN: RUTH: An ancient threshing floorThreshing floors at harvest time were often the scene of sexual shenanigans, what the old Irish priests used to rail against as ‘fockin’ in the fields’, a time for license forbidden at other times.

Lying beside Boaz, Ruth suggested that he, as the go-el of Naomi’s family, should ‘cover her with his blanket’, a euphemism for marriage. She had the right to demand marriage of the go-el of her family, so that she could have the children that Israelite women longed for. Boaz happily agreed, but pointed out to her that there was another man who had that right, a closer relative even than himself. Boaz had to square matters with him before he could marry Ruth. He seems to have been at pains to do everything correctly, so that there could be no question about the legality of the marriage.

Ruth stayed beside Boaz until morning, stealing away before first light to return to Naomi, who pounced on her and demanded to know how things had gone, and whether the plan had worked. Was Ruth to be married or single? The two women waited impatiently to see how events would unfold.

The marriage of Ruth and Boaz

Book of Ruth Chapter 4

The Bride, Frederick GoodallOf course, the villagers were well aware of what was happening, as people in small towns usually are. When Boaz went next morning to the meeting place at the gate of the town, he was met almost immediately by the official go-el of Naomi’s family – and probably by a good many interested onlookers as well.

Some complicated negotiation went on regarding a small parcel of land that Naomi either owned outright or had put up for sale at some previous time, but this was just a formality. The outcome of this story was never in doubt.

‘So Boaz took Ruth and she became his wife.

When they came together, the Lord made her conceive, and she bore a son. Then the women said to Naomi “Blessed be the Lord, who has not left you this day without next of kin. May his name be renowned in Israel! He shall be to you a restorer of life and a nourishment for your old age. For your daughter-in-law who loves you, who is more to you than seven sons, has borne him”.

Then Naomi took the child and laid him in her bosom, and became his nurse.’
Read Ruth 4:1-22
Ruth and Boaz were married, and she had a son, Obed. Eventually, Ruth would be the great-grandmother of King David.

In the ancient world, women hunched over a hole hollowed in the ground, standing on bricks or stones placed at either side. They gave birth in a squatting position, with relatives and friends taking turns to support them under the arms.  See Childbirth in ancient times.

The marriage of Ruth and Boaz created a family with a good chance of success, because
– Naomi was shrewd, courageous and persevering
– Ruth was intelligent, strong, loyal and level-headed
– Boaz was a good manager of people, and not afraid to get his hands dirty.

The full Bible text of the Book of Ruth is available here.

The Story of Ruth, Thomas Matthews Rooke, 1876

The Story of Ruth, Thomas Matthews Rooke, 1876


For a short version of the story of Ruth, go to Bible Men and Women: Ruth

Try Bible Study Activities for interesting ways of delving into this story.

Or read about more fascinating women of the Bible


Card# 52
Psalm 91


8 You will only look with your eyes,
    and see the recompense of the wicked.




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